Just the Facts...

  • There are 54.4 million single people in the US. 

  • In 2019, 39% of American couples met online.

  • 20% of current, committed relationships began online.  

  • The top 10 dating apps in the US saw $679 million in gross revenues between 2018 to early 2019.

  • 49.7 million people in the US have tried online dating totaling over $3 billion in industry revenue.  

  • 50% of all singles in one study said honesty is the most important attribute to consider when deciding whom to date.  

  • Americans lost $143 million in online romance scams in 2018.  It’s the #1 reported fraud according to the Federal Trade Commission. 

  • Number of women killed by homicide grew by 21%, says new study- Over half at the hands of a man they know.



Identifying the Issues & Statistics


1.  Domestic Violence (DV) & Intimate Partner Violence (IPV)


Children and Healthcare

By addressing the underlying causes of DV and IPV, we can save billions on healthcare expenses, and prevent children from perpetuating the “cycle of abuse” as they become adults.


  • 1 in 15 children are exposed to intimate partner violence each year, and 90% of these children are eyewitnesses to this violence.

  • 30 to 60% of perpetrators of intimate partner violence also abuse children in the household. 

  • There is a common link between domestic violence and child abuse. Among victims of child abuse, 40% report domestic violence in the home.

  • The average cost of emergency care for intimate partner violence related incidents for women is $948.

  • Domestic Violence costs $8.3 billion in expenses annually; a combination of higher medical costs ($5.8 billion) and lost productivity ($2.5 billion). [i]


Physical Abuse

With DV and IPV effecting over 12 million men and women in the US every year, and hundreds of law enforcement officers killed annually responding to these calls, we must start addressing the underlying issues if we are to make inroads to ending the cycle of abuse.


  • On average, 24 people per minute are victims of rape, physical violence or stalking by an intimate partner in the United States — more than 12 million women and men over the course of a year.

  • 1 in 3 women and 1 in 4 men have been victims of [some form of] physical violence by an intimate partner within their lifetime. 

  • 1 in 4 women and 1 in 7 men have been victims of severe physical violence by an intimate partner in their lifetime. 

  • 1 in 7 women and 1 in 18 men have been stalked by an intimate partner during their lifetime to the point in which they felt very fearful or believed that they or someone close to them would be harmed or killed.

  • In 2017, more officers were shot responding to domestic violence than any other type of firearm-related fatality, according to the National Law Enforcement Officers Memorial Fund. From 1988 to 2016, 136 officers were killed while responding to domestic disturbances such as family arguments, FBI data show. 

  • 80% of the participants in the 2015 NDVH survey who had called police were afraid that if they called again in the future, officers would not believe them or wouldn’t do anything about the violence, the survey reported. 

  • Only 25% of physical assaults perpetrated against women are reported to the police. 


Economic Abuse

Economic Abuse is the least discussed issue relating to DV and IPV.  Currently, most states do not have laws protecting victims from losing their jobs, health insurance, or protecting them from negative credit information being reported. There are only a dozen states that have passed laws giving victims the right to take some time off work.  FMLA may cover some incidents of DV.  Victims are also not eligible for disability when they face severe injuries and PTSD, etc.


  • Between 94-99% of domestic violence survivors have also experienced economic abuse.

  • Between 21-60% of victims of domestic violence lose their jobs due to reasons stemming from the abuse.

  • Each year, an estimated 8 million days of paid work is lost because of domestic violence.  


In the Workplace 

More than 70% of United States workplaces do not have a formal program or policy that addresses workplace violence.


  • A survey of American employees found that 44% of full-time employed adults personally experienced domestic violence’s effect in their workplaces, and 21% identified themselves as victims of intimate partner violence.

  • Nearly two in three corporate executives (63%) say that domestic violence is a major problem in our society and more than half (55%) cite its harmful impact on productivity in their companies.

  • Nine in ten employees (91%) say that domestic violence has a negative impact on their company’s bottom line. Just 43% of corporate executives agree. Seven in ten corporate executives (71%) do not perceive domestic violence as a major issue at their company.

  • 96% of domestic violence victims who are employed experience problems at work due to abuse.


2.  Romance Scams

  • Romance scams have doubled and reported losses increased more than fourfold from 2015 to 2018 totaling $143MM.[iii]

  • People who said they were ages 40 to 69 reported losing money to romance scams at the highest rates – more than twice the rate of people in their 20s. At the same time, people 70 and over reported the highest individual median losses at $10,000.[iv]

  • While individual reports of romance scams filed with the Federal Trade Commission represented only 1.5% of all fraud tracked by the agency; they are number one in terms of the dollar loss.[v]

  • Victims in the US and Canada have reported losing nearly $1 billion in the last three years to Romance Scams.

  • On average, there are 25,000 scammers online with victims at any one time.

  • A company that screens profiles for dating companies states that 500,000 of the 3.5 million profiles it scans every month are fraudulent.


3. Protective Order Databases 

Bottom line:  Every one of these databases, whether held in the NCIC, within the state, or the courts, are inaccurate.  Gun shops predominately use the NCIC to verify if an applicant is eligible to purchase a gun.  In just one year alone, there were 738,797 missing state records from the NCIC, potentially allowing hundreds of thousands of people access to purchase guns from unknowing gun shops.  


  • At the end of 2014, there were 2,143,002 records in state protection order databases and 1,404,205 records in the NCIC Protection Order File.[vi] This means 738,797 records were present in the state databases, but missing from NCIC.  

  • The data used to create any Uniform Crime Report is collected voluntarily by police forces in cities across the country and not every city or state chooses to participate, so the list doesn't necessarily give the full picture. 

  • If a victim cannot produce a hard copy of a protection order, then many jurisdictions require law enforcement to verify the protection order through NCIC.  To do this, the officer must verify the validity of the record by contacting the originating agency that entered the record.

  • Once a record is entered into NCIC, the originating agency is required to provide “hit confirmations” 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.[vii]  If the court is the custodian of the record, most are staffed 24/7, therefore, cannot be verified.

  • Due to having to manually check the validity of the records periodically against various databases (i.e. Driver’s license, criminal history file, vehicle registration database, etc) to make sure it’s as descriptive as possible, and that the order is accurate, complete, still outstanding or active.  Therefore, most agencies and courts do not have the staffing resources to perform this check so they oftentimes elect to not enter them.

  • Protection orders are also not entered because the court order does not contain the necessary information to meet NCIC inclusion requirements.  If one data element is missing, the NCIC will not accept the record.  There are eight mandatory data elements (Name, sex, race, protection order conditions, date of expiration, date of issue, originating case number/protection order number, and at least one of the following: date of birth, FBI number, social security number, driver’s license or passport).  The lack of standardized forms across all areas is a huge issue.

  • Protection orders may not be entered until they are served and the subject has a chance to address the court.  Emergency temporary protection orders may be granted, however, typically expire within 3 to 7 days.  Because of the many steps involved in these orders (served, expired, replaced with final order, etc.), any breakdown in communication between the court and law enforcement can result in failure to properly enter an order.

  • As of 2014, 42 states, the District of Columbia and Guam report having their own centralized protection order database.  These files may house records that would not qualify for entry into the NCIC (due to missing just one of the elements) but are still accessible by IN-STATE law enforcement only.  

  • Even with state protection order databases, there is no mandatory requirement that every county within the state participates. 

  • Military Protective Orders never make it to the NCIC.  They are handled within the ranks, therefore, we have no idea how many POFs are within the military walls.  

  • We want transparency.  Domestic Violence and IPV statistics are only as good as the data being entered.  Due to the inconsistencies in who and what is being reported to the NCIC from the states and courts, there is virtually no way to compare numbers among the nation- let alone between the states and counties.  Current laws do not require states to mandatory report to the NCIC.  The NCIC only keeps a “card catalog” of incidents, not the entire IPO.  These are documents we as citizens should have full access to under the Freedom of Information Act (FOIA).


4.  The #Me Too Movement & Dating[viii]

  • MEN AND #METOO: Half of men (51%) say the #MeToo movement has caused them to act differently overall; specifically, nearly 40% of men are now more reserved towards female colleagues at work and 34% of men said they act more reserved on a date because of the movement. Millennial men are leading the way here, with 37% acting more reserved on a date, compared to Gen Z men at only 16%.

  • SINGLES, DATING AND #METOO:  59% of today’s singles say the #MeToo movement is important to them (46% Men; 69% Women); and almost half say it has sparked necessary discussions. It has changed behavior too: Overall, both men and women are more reserved when approaching someone new in public (35%), as well as when on a date (33%), and with what they post on social media (28%). Additionally, when with a new potential partner, 19% of singles think twice about the jokes they make, the topics they discuss (15%), and about inviting that person to come home with them (15%).

  • A WELCOME CHANGE: Only 14% of singles (19% Men; 10% Women) think the #MeToo movement has made dating more challenging.


5. Online Dating Data & Risks [ix]

  • Estimated 2,000 dating services in North America and 8,000 worldwide

  • There are approximately 690 million singles online globally at the end of 2019.  

  • 39 percent of American couples will meet online in 2019.  

  • The dating industry has steadily grown and at of the end of 2018 is worth $3 billion in revenue.  

  • 49.7 million Americans have tried online dating, a number that’s not far off from the total number of single people in the country: 54.4 million.

  • One out of 10 sex offenders use online dating to meet other people.[x]

  • On free dating sites, at least 10% of new accounts are from scammers.

  • In 2005 alone, 25% percent of rapists used online dating sites to find their victims.

  • Each year Internet predators commit more than 16,000 abductions, 100 murders and thousands of rapes, according to

  • When it comes to users researching their dates, studies show that 77% of daters research matches on a regular basis.  Most spend 15-30 minutes conducting their investigations online.  88% said Facebook is their “go-to” source of information, followed by Google (77%), Instagram (53%), Twitter (29%), and LinkedIn (21%).  25% have reverse image searched a picture.

  • 53% of people lie on their online dating profile.  

  • U.S. Presidential Candidate Pete Buttigieg is the first candidate to have met his spouse on a dating app.  The app was Hinge.  He is also a Millennial.

  • 46% of dating app users met their current partner online.

  • The online dating market is projected to grow to $12 billion by 2020.


[i] (

[ii] (National Domestic Violence Hotline,




[vi] Survey of State Criminal History Information Systems, 2014 (





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